What I’ve Learned about Friendships

Some Key Points of Friendships
Photo by Clarisse Meyer

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8 ESV)

You need to actively care.

Actively caring comes in all shapes and sizes. It can range from the act of comforting to spending time with each other to plainly using your words to encourage. A couple key points are:

Consolation. When you have a friend who’s hurting or in a bad mood, it can be first nature to give him/her some space or to let them work things out on her own. But think: what would you like in that situation? I know that sometimes I’d like someone to help me work through my emotions. It can be hard to gauge, but the more you know your friend, the easier it will be.

Making the effort. Be the one to initiate conversation or to set up a coffee date (I’m personally awful with this one). Be intentional with what you ask, and pay attention to the answers. Find out your friend’s love language, and then find ways to use it to show him/her you care.

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